On the BIG TOM Part 3 training, we explore how the behaviours of a driving instructor can be perceived by pupils. A great deal of communication is created not by what IS said, but by the method in which it is sent out to the pupil. Generally speaking, people do not appreciate the effect this has on the 'receiver' of the communication.
If our PDI is from a background that has not involved 1:1 communication with people then this section of BIG TOM training can be enlightening. As the years tick by, we all tend to develop personal characteristics of communication often without conscious awareness. For example, some people will tend to:
speak too quickly or slowly
not make eye contact
pepper a sentence with overused words such as "obviously", "as you know", "of course", "but", "like", "kind of"
steer conversations around to the instructor or other pupils rather than the pupil in front of them
not check for understanding after giving an explanation
not attempt to smile
speak in a monotone voice with no accentuation or lilt
do too much "telling" and not enough "asking"
structure a question so that it is 'loaded'
be facing away from a pupil when speaking rather than towards them
start talking before engaging brain (rambling)